A 20- something femme studying at a liberal arts college and navigating friendships, relationships, allyship, feminism, queerness, anxiety and survival. I like flowers and cute animals, especially pigs. White/ cis/ able-bodied. She, her.

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Ugh that post has gotten me thinking about fat acceptance in a way I haven’t in years. I’ve read more studies about weight and health than probably any other topic I’ve ever researched. And every time I see someone wail about health I am just like

Did you know that in…

Sometimes I get really weirded out that we have pictures that have my abuser(s) in them hanging around the house.

PTSD and horror films

Friend without PTSD 1: I almost fell asleep at the beginning.

Friend without PTSD 2: Same at the end.

Me and other friend with PTSD: Well, I'm going to be on edge for the next few hours.

My counselor gave me a handout on Grounding and I thought it would be very helpful for some of you. So I'm going to type it out for you guys here.


Detaching From Emotional Pain (Grounding)

What Is Grounding?
Grounding is a set of simple strategies to detach from emotional pain (for example, drug cravings, self-harm impulses, anger, sadness). Distraction works by focusing outward on the external world -…

"-Say a safety statement. "My name is____; I am safe right now. I am in the present, not the past. I am located in ____; the date is ____.""

^this is my most effective technique when I feel a flashback coming on.

(Source: psych-student-in-therapy)

There exists a sub-section of men who literally cannot sit through a discussion of structural misogyny without receiving constant and emphatic reassurance that no one is accusing them personally of being a misogynist. This is a derail and an attempt to shut down debate. Because, to quote “Sometimes, it’s just a cigar”:

“Suppose you disagree with women about whether rape is part of the structure of our society, used to reinforce patriarchy. Do you make that debate possible by standing on your wounded pride, and just insisting that the debate must start with a disclaimer that says you’re not a rapist? Forgive me, but that’s nothing more than narcissism.”

The conviction that you have never participated or been complicit in structural misogyny is dubious to say the least, no matter what your gender. But even if you are resolute that you, personally, have managed to transcend the system you were born and raised in and now stand as a shining beacon of gender equity outside the mire of patriarchy? Good for you, but structural misogyny still exists and we still need to have a conversation about it. If you think you have nothing to learn, go play elsewhere on the internet.

elliot rodger and the logical conclusion

Sometimes, it’s just a cigar

(via iamacollectionofmiscellanyandtea)

i know there are a million posts about why “not all men” is dumb but this is exceptionally well-explained.

(via dailyfeminism)

(Source: researchtobedone)


Fuck Yeah Queer Latin@s in Books!

  1. Trauma Queen by Lovemme Corazón
  2. Chulito by Charles Rice-Gonzalez
  3. Down to the Bone by Maya Lazara Dole
  4. City of Night by John Rechy
  5. The Rain God by Arturo Islas
  6. The Dirty Girls Social Club by Alisa Valdes-Rodriguez
  7. The Cha Cha Files: A Chapina Poetica by Maya Chinchilla
  8. Their Dogs Came with Them by Helena Maria Viramontes
  9. Make Love to Rage by Morgan Robyn Colladooc



Hello Pagans of Color!

We are back with the season premiere of our witch web series. Hoping you guys can reblog the crap out of this one and share it with anyone you know will enjoy it too!

Again, It is a web series about five girls who mysteriously get powers and must learn to deal with these powers and each other. It features an all women of color cast! It’s funny and dramatic and we at MisSpelled just hope you enjoy it!

Follow US here at thewitchesofmisspelled.tumblr.com


Cool! Finally a show featuring witches of color (who don’t get fucked over to save White people).